Despite living with cancer, violence and fear, Maja and her children are happy being together!
This is Maja Kolarski and her beautiful family. Maja is the mother of six children, and with her live Aleksandra (17), Jelena (15), Vuk (13), Danilo (9) and Lazar (7). Beneath their gentle smiles lay hidden sadness and uncertainty they will not discuss. They are happy, because they are together!
They won’t tell you that they are sometimes hungry. And that they don’t have money to buy something to eat. They won’t tell you that until recently they lived in an old, dilapidated house, which a good man let them use. They won’t tell you that mice crawled over the house at night while they slept. The mice also ate their food which they had nowhere to store. Sometimes the mice even bit the children. They slept together because the children were afraid of the mice. They were safest with their mother!
They won’t tell you how they get electrical shocks in the bathroom when they run the water to bathe or to wash their hands. Maja changes the fuses in spite of the old installation. When she has something to prepare, she cooks the best meals on a small stove which she received from strangers, and in an oven that sometimes does and sometimes doesn’t work. But she will always welcome you with a heartfelt cup of coffee.
Life went downhill for them when Maja got breast cancer. While she went through chemotherapy, and she lost her hair, her only strengths were her children and God. She went to sleep with the desire to get up in the morning and spend another day with them.
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Employers don’t like that she has so many children, and that she misses work due to physical check ups. Because of her breast surgery, her arm is not fully functional. This is why she doesn’t have a job. But neither she nor her children are afraid to work. Although she shouldn’t work because of her illness, she says, “We have to live.” She looks after children with autism and cleans apartments. She made Christmas decorations. Some she sold, and some were destroyed by the mice. She went to cafes with her daughters to sell bracelets they had made together. For this, she was criticized!
When you ask Maja how she is, she says, “Good.” If you ask her what she needs, “Nothing.” If you ask her what she would change, she will say, “Nothing. I would do the same all over again. I would marry him and give birth to this many children. All that matters is that the children and I are together!” Even though he left them when they needed him the most – when Maja got sick and was exhausted from the chemotherapy and was helpless. Even though they suffered abuse.
Maja is having a hard time. But she doesn’t let anyone see it. She doesn’t allow herself or her children to give up. If she falls, there is no one to care for the children. They are all schoolchildren!
They are now renting another apartment in Begeč near Novi Sad, which rents for 50 Euros a month – living room, two rooms and a kitchenette. They had to move because the oldest daughter was being sexually harassed. But what if they eventually end up on the street, tomorrow, or in a month or two? That would destroy Maja and her children!
That is why we appeal to you to help in providing Maja and her children with a roof over their heads. A room free of mice, where they will be able to sleep free of care, knowing that they will sleep again in the same room tomorrow. A roof under which Aleksandra can study in peace, and focus on her studies at her medical high school and become a doctor. A roof under which Danilo and Laza’s friends can come for their birthdays, and under which Jelena can put on make-up. A door that doesn’t fall off when Vuk opens it to greet you. A roof under which they will finally be protected from fear and inner turmoil!
Mark your donations for the “Kolarski family” and send them to the account of the organizers of this fundraiser, the Charity organization Serbs for Serbs.